When your girlfriend shares that she’s considering abortion and you’re unsure how you feel, it can bring up a lot at once. You may be worried about her health, your relationship, your future, and your own values. It’s okay to have questions and to want trustworthy information before either of you makes a decision.

At NorthStar Women’s Center, you and your girlfriend can access free, confidential services to help clarify what’s happening and what choices look like without pressure or judgment. We offer lab-quality pregnancy testing, ultrasounds, and STI testing and treatment for chlamydia and gonorrhea performed by medical professionals at no cost.

Schedule a free, confidential appointment to get clear answers and support as you navigate next steps.

What You Both Can Learn Together

Before any decision is made, knowing key medical details can bring clarity. A pregnancy test can confirm pregnancy, and an ultrasound can determine how far along the pregnancy is, verify that the pregnancy is located in the uterus, and assess viability by checking for fetal cardiac activity. This information is important for ruling out miscarriage or ectopic pregnancy, which require different medical care.

STI testing is also important. Some infections have no symptoms, but untreated STIs can increase the risk of complications after an abortion and may contribute to pelvic inflammatory disease (PID), which can impact reproductive health in the future.

Supporting Her and Yourself

It’s normal to feel torn. You may want to support her while also hoping your feelings and concerns are part of the conversation. Getting support from a trusted friend, family member, or counselor can help you process what you’re feeling and communicate in a calm, respectful way. You also don’t have to sort through those feelings alone. NorthStar Women’s Center is here to support you.

The goal is for both of you to feel supported, informed, and able to talk honestly as you consider next steps.

Talking With Care and Respect

You don’t have to have perfect words. Honest, calm communication can go a long way. It may help to share how you feel using “I” statements, ask questions, and focus on understanding rather than winning an argument.

Sometimes it helps to talk through your options with a trained professional. Parenting, adoption, and abortion each involve emotional, physical, and practical considerations. NorthStar Women’s Center offers free consultations where you can learn about the pregnancy and get clear information in a supportive setting.

You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone

Unexpected pregnancy decisions can put real strain on a relationship. Having a calm, private space to talk can help both of you slow down, get accurate information, and communicate without pressure.

NorthStar Women’s Center offers free, confidential consultations designed to provide clarity and support during this uncertain time.

Schedule a free, confidential appointment to talk through your questions and explore next steps together.

NorthStar does not provide or refer for abortions.